Hot take: 26 year olds should not fuck 19 year olds.
It's not illegal, but it's still weird, creepy and potentially harmful and no amount of lambasting about "the problematic age gap discourse" will make it not true.
My roommates met at around those ages (apparently they met in college and didn't realize the age gap until it was too late) and honestly I thought it was messed up for awhile but now they're 23 and 30, making a life for themselves, supporting the other at their lowest and loving each other
I'd still agree with you generally, I have no plans to recreate their relationship, but it is possible for it to work out
I've seen similar situations as well. Context is always important, so weird absolutist takes like OP's miss that completely. Some situations would be fine, some would be inappropriate, but it's not all or nothing.