Suggesting the defender in a war should just stop fighting, or that helping them is bad because if they did not have the ability to defend themselves, they'd quickly be unable to fight and the war would end with their defeat, is not anti-war. It is appeasement, and that is ultimately pro-war, because it creates a situation in which starting wars of aggression can benefit the ones who start them, which inevitably leads to more wars being started. To be against war, in the long term, one must support a situation in which starting wars is against the self-interest of those in the position to do so, and one of the clearest ways to do that is to try to ensure that those who begin wars of conquest or other such aggression, lose them.
Anyways, you have the right idea about it being unjust that those who start wars of aggression reap benefits from starting them. That is why it is best for both Russia and Ukraine to resolve this using peaceful negotiations, as the reason why america is pouring military hardware into the latter is to bolster its own war of aggression against Russia motivated by cynical geopolitical interests.
This current conflict has a long and bloody history stretching way back from 2014 till now. It is called the "Russo-Ukranian war" and started with the Euromaidan incident when the EU used far right groups to antidemocratically depose a pro-Russian Ukranian president and plant someone who is more aligned with their agenda so that they could put pressure on Russia, as Russia was starting to get unfriendly towards the American trading bloc.
As such, the true nature of this conflict is an awful proxy war between Russia and NATO (america), where innocents suffer and the rich get richer.
Therefore, I think we would both agree that it is not good for america to send more weapons to Ukraine as this would be fulfilling america's own selfish geopolitical interests using the lives of innocent Ukranians.
UA, and by that I mean its state, has been a naked pawn since 2014, responding to Western interests to stoke and prolong civil war by the Russian border, target ethnic Russians with discrimination and violence (and Roma, and LGBTQ+ people, etc), and generally toy with joining NATO, a highly aggressive anti-Russian military organization.
The dominant Western propaganda narrative is to try to get everyone to forget the breathless reporting their media outlets did on Ukraine from 2013-2022 and to instead use absurd little terms like, "unprovoked invasion", which I would guess is also where the idea of UA being simply defensive comes from. Yes, they were invaded by Russia, but they've also been ratcheting up pressure on Russia for a decade through various cynical moves, beginning with a coup against a government that was becoming slightly friendlier with Russia. The most notable events just prior to the RF invading was a huge ramping up of shelling of the Donbas, including civilian population centers.
Anyways, yes it is bad to keep pushing the "escalate and fight to the last Ukrainian button". It would be much better if Ukraine were forced to negotiate peace and were not acting as a pawn against Russia rather than a state protecting its own people.
I'm not sure about the US, but the UK is providing arms to Ukraine under bilateral aid agreements. The exact terms of these agreements aren't public, but traditionally bilateral aid agreements heavily favour the country giving, as the country receiving is desperate. Thus, the weapons are not being donated, they are being provided as a long term loan.
It's almost inevitable that Ukraine won't be able to pay back this loan. This means the UK will probably have to write off this debt, eventually. However in the meantime the books can be balanced (or at least it makes it look like the government hasn't raped the country as much as it has) and the write off will be a future government's problem. Also, whatever amount Ukraine will still pay should help ensure the country remains on the back foot, should it survive its invasion from Russia.
No real surprise from a government in bed with Russia over the years leading up and into the invasion.
Suffice it to say, the war machine money printer go brrrr.
Or… to use the money which would be used in replacing the equipment in the form of aid in Hawaii.
Which, with all due respect, is the entire point of saying what your image is "disproving". As it stands, the image only serves as propaganda to concerned citizens who think that the resources their government is spending could be better used.
And before you dismiss this as some kind of "tankie" talking point, the majority of Americans think their government shouldn't be spending as much on Ukraine. The massively inflated budget for "Defense" could very well be redirected to aid in the context of a domestic disaster.