1mo ago

How would you approach someone in an orgy?

I don't want to be intrusive, so what is a good "pickup line" to have? Especially relevant for lesbians as this isn't necessarily a queer orgy but i'm sure there will be some bi or lesbians there! Also, what is a good way to turn someone down nicely?

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Ask, don't assume you can do whatever you want.
Other than that its like talking to someone any other time, treat them how you'd like to be treated.
So turning down is as simple as "No thank you" or "I'd like to keep doing this instead" or whatever depending on what's being asked.
- I heard this advice a lot, but like... How can I be so casual in that scenario? 😅 obviously I would never touch or invade someones personal space without verbal consent.
  I guess I just need to practice in my head coming to someone mid sex and just going "Hi, may I join?" 😅
  
  I mean, you have to be pretty comfortable and somewhat casual in an orgy - it isn't like someone is going to tip their top hat and say "Perchance, madame, may I gaze upon you from below whilst delivering my tongue?"
  I mean, maybe someone would, but it would be with someone they know and kind of jokey about it.
  But this:
  obviously I would never touch or invade someones personal space without verbal consent.
  You might not, but some do behave that way. Its gross when it happens, and generally speaking, that person wouldn't be invited back (as long as the person running the event is made aware).
  So really, yeah, you'll need to be comfortably casual. You're going to have sex with them, not ask them to take you to prom first.
(I have zero experience and am making a joke)
Just slot a quarter into their cleavage/butt crack and say "next".
- This would really work lol
  
  Oh thank God someone recognized ancient arcade etiquette in my joke. I thought for sure someone was going to like roast me in my comments saying "This would never work What are you talking about that's not funny".
The trick is to approach them before the sex starts. Go say hello and have a chat. Then later it's much easier to catch their eye and ask if you can join.
- Thanks! 💞
Events differ in their vibe, but it's surprisingly easy to just strike up a conversation with people, a well-run event will have people keeping an eye on things and doing vibe checks
- Honestly, being a vibe checker sounds like a nicer way to ease into this world before actually participating, I wonder if that is possible 🤔
  
  It takes quite a bit of experience to accurately read a situation, especially if things are getting kinky
  I've hosted things, where I basically wasn't playing because I was making sure that everyone else was safe (first and foremost) and enjoying themselves
  I've seen inexperienced DMs either freak out, power trip or miss things
  One of the easy ways to dip your toe into things is to attend a few munches and non-play events. You can get a feel for what it's like to start or join conversations with people in a sex-positive environment
flowers and a box of chocolates would be a classy move.
- Ohhh, so romantic
eye contact
nice pubes bro!
- I would be horrified if someone commented on my pubes, maybe only if it's an extremely positive comment, definitely not if they called me bro 🤣
  
  maybe ask them what is good from the buffet table.
Rock hard, probably.
@Neu maybe you don't even need to approach them? You could you sit back, enjoy watching, masturbate when you see something you like, and wait for someone charming and naughty to approach you with a filthy and irresistible proposition?
- Not sure that would fit my style 😅 I can initiate but I don't love leading or going solo. Plus I usually prefer women and at least in my non-orgy experience the natrual ratio of men to women approaching me is like 10:1 😅
  
  @Neu I'm now thinking about you going as someone's pet. They can take care of all that for you, in line with your wishes and desires, and they can also guide and help your preferred partners in how they ought to handle you once you have agreed with them who it is you'd love to play with?
‘Can i help you with that?’

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