My wife kept all my old letters very similarly. A few shoeboxes of hand written messages and photos. I always loved that, even if she never went back in there
Married 20 years this August.
I recently caught her in an affair where she claimed she was truly in love. She said she hasn't been "in love" with me for most of our marriage and has constantly cheated even before we were married.
She wants us to stay together "as friends" until our girls are both graduated, in 6 years.
I am so, so sorry. Would you like me to remove this? Ugh. As someone also going through shitty relationship problems I sure feel for you.
Also, she is doing what is called monkey branching with you. She does not want to be friends, she wants to keep you as a backup plan. This is what borderlines and narcissists do, and even though Reddit is awful, probably reading the BPDlovedones or LifeAfterNarcissism subreddits will help you get perspective on what she is. They will lie to your face and constantly seek someone higher status or that makes them feel more important behind your back. Obviously I don't know her, but I bet you'd find many things that resonate. I also have book recommendations for you if you feel this fits, and please PM me anytime if you need support. I'm going through pure-D hell with my ex.
You don't need to remove, though I appreciate the offer.
Facing it, even if it is just a bit at a time helps.
I like that it reflects the complex nature of us and that we are so much a part of the lives we touch.
This hurts.
My wife kept all my old letters very similarly. A few shoeboxes of hand written messages and photos. I always loved that, even if she never went back in there
Married 20 years this August.
I recently caught her in an affair where she claimed she was truly in love. She said she hasn't been "in love" with me for most of our marriage and has constantly cheated even before we were married.
She wants us to stay together "as friends" until our girls are both graduated, in 6 years.
I am so, so sorry. Would you like me to remove this? Ugh. As someone also going through shitty relationship problems I sure feel for you.
Also, she is doing what is called monkey branching with you. She does not want to be friends, she wants to keep you as a backup plan. This is what borderlines and narcissists do, and even though Reddit is awful, probably reading the BPDlovedones or LifeAfterNarcissism subreddits will help you get perspective on what she is. They will lie to your face and constantly seek someone higher status or that makes them feel more important behind your back. Obviously I don't know her, but I bet you'd find many things that resonate. I also have book recommendations for you if you feel this fits, and please PM me anytime if you need support. I'm going through pure-D hell with my ex.
You don't need to remove, though I appreciate the offer.
Facing it, even if it is just a bit at a time helps.
I like that it reflects the complex nature of us and that we are so much a part of the lives we touch.