Why are narrcisists so concerned about events being "ruined" by behaviour they don't like?
For example, a birthday can only be "ruined" when the birthday person declares it to be ruined.
ngl I don't think it has much to do with narcissism, but more with control. I have autism and sometimes, I think some activities I try to do are ruined because I can no longuer control how I do them.
Something I learned from listening to podcasts about comedy and stand up is to never tell the audience they are getting a bad show. If you think you are bombing and start trying to lampshade it you admit to the audience you don't have control over the situation and they start to have a bad time.
P.s. I was thinking of narcissists who will never be satisfied or seem to enjoy ruining events, not necessarily just being disappointed with something. Im sorry you feel that way sometimes