AITA for telling my husband our kids are no longer allowed to spend the night at family’s homes?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Suck_myCat69 on 2023-07-26 16:48:52+00:00.

My family stationed to Hawaii due to military. My husbands family also lives here. Prior to moving here, we sent our kids to the island to live with their aunt(his sister) because childcare was hard to find to the point I almost got let go from my job. They stayed about a year. When my husband and I finally flew in we learned quickly that the kids had severe head lice. I could tell treatment to rid it was neglected. I was mad since at that time I was pregnant with our 4th child and feared the baby would catch it. I held my tongue and just did what I could to get rid of it. Fast forward and we let his sisters kids stay with us for a week. Maybe about 1-2 weeks later I started to notice bumps on the kids bodies. Didn’t think much of this until I woke one morning and found what I thought to be a tick in my hair. I mentioned it to my husband and he nonchalantly says ‘oh I think we have bed bugs’. Like wtf?! I started checking our bed and lo and behold I find two fat bugs hidden in the seams of our mattress. When I check the kids rooms it’s even worse. I lost it at that point. I told him I don’t want our kids staying there, I don’t want them coming here, and that he needs to tell his sister. He gets mad at me because he says I’m talking ‘shit’ about her. Exterminator comes today and it’s looking to be over $1000 for the house. I might have to throw away furniture we haven’t had for a year yet. I don’t think I’m overreacting. She might be content living with lice, roaches, and bed bugs but I’m not. And this affects our children. What am I missing?