My medical emergency had nothing to do with my transness. The doctor still asked invasive questions.

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I don't want to delegitimize this person's experience, but they do this to cis women as well. They don't trust what you say, what you have experienced, and even what your labs say sometimes. Basically, you're only safe in our healthcare system if you are a cis white male.
- Cishet white male here: what makes you think they believe us? They assume we are lying about Viagra, illicit drugs, alcohol, caffeine, past diagnoses. We're treated like we are too stupid to be alive, we're seeking drugs, and trying to commit insurance fraud.
  I'm not rich enough to donate a new wing; they don't believe anything I say.
  
  Not a doctor, but as a person who used to fix other people's computers I learned to never trust what the owner said. I believe doctors might have similar experience.
  
  I have had a similar experience to you, so I'll go with that.
  My exp?
  "The program is crashing!"
  It was hanging because they requested 1GB of data in a single query
  "The library code contains memory leaks"
  *Memory leaks were in the code of the application they made using the library"
  "You installed this thing and now some part of my code does not work"
  The other team that provided that part of code, installed something in system, without using the package manager and then didn't tell anyone about it
  Ok, that one was my fault. I should not have installed stuff just asking the tester. I should have asked someone higher up.
  No! You don't install stuff with the same name as a package in the same location as the package manager would, without using the package manager! opt is there for a reason. My fault was that I didn't do that intentionally.
  "The program is hanging"
  It was crashing
  
  Statistically, doctors are more likely to believe men and take them seriously than they are women. Doctors are more likely to treat pain in men appropriately than they are women. Doctors are far likely to take white men at face value and believe what they're saying than they are black women.
  The fact that you've had bad luck doesn't mean that this is true systemically for all men, or even for the majority of men.
  
  When you will explain your symptoms, they will be listen.
  
  You didn't.

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