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If there is no heaven or after life, what is the point of living?

(If you have anxiety about death then maybe you shouldn't read this post, just letting you know!)

Edit: Thank you guys for being so quick to post your comments and give your thoughts, it makes me wish I said something sooner rather than dealing with it on my own. You guys are seriously awesome, and have made me want to fight way harder to be a better person for my friends and family, and everyone else around me. I think tonight I'll finally be able to sleep, and I'm looking forward for tomorrow and to be able to talk to my Dad about how I'm feeling and what I'm thinking about all this, and to spend as much time with him as I can. Take care of yourself guys! And again, thank you so, so much. I seriously feel way better and my anxiety is a lot less now.

Before joining Lemmy I used to be a devoted Christian since my family raised me as one and have been Christians for generations. And to add important context, I'm not talking about judge mental homophobic trump supporting Christians that judge gays and everyone else they see who don't live the way they live. I'm talking about being a real follower of Christ who loves thy neighbor and knows we have no right to judge, not what most church's are today who just exist to make a profit. My family are bible based Christians and raised me as one too, not by propaganda machines. (Or at least the propaganda that politicians or "Church's" who exploit vulnerable people for their money like to spread around. The "buy my book to change your life" or "plant your $1000 seed" type of shenanigans makes me sick.)

Anywhoo, while being on Lemmy and learning a lot about U.S. politics I just have never seen on other social media sites like X and Reddit, and talking about science, capitalism, global warming, and so on and so fourth with the incredible people on here, it has really broaden my view on certain subjects and be a lot more open to a lot more ideas, one of which is Atheism.

I haven't thought about it too much, but recently my Grandfather died and so my emotions and thoughts have wandered about him and about loosing someone I care a lot about, and then a question popped into my head; is he truly in a "better place"? Do they actually go somewhere? What will happen to my Dad?

After that random thought, my brain has kind of spiraled out of control about this topic and I haven't been able to sleep well since I've been having anxiety thinking about death. What is the point if all of life (our life) is truly just our brains, and our brain stops working? Is it really just, nothingness? What is the point of making all these amazing memories with family and friends that I cherish more than anything in the world, if all these memories are going to be forgotten? Whether its today, or 80 years from now? With this ideology, when I stop breathing, I will quite literally become nothing. There will be nothing. I am dead. It's made me into this "why should I care" mood about almost everything.

I think I've kind of made my anxiety worse during the last few nights since I also decided to look up what its like to die and what scientists have said about the topic, whoops! Turns out our brain can still think 2-15 minutes after our hearts stop beating! I know I'm joking here which I tend to do when I'm in these situations but I have been extremely anxious when it comes to the fear of death. Not in a "I'm scared to use this knife to cut a slice of tomato" kind of way, but a "when we're gone there will be nothing and I will remember nothing and become nothing" sort of way.

Not trying to get political here, but with this thought in my mind for the last couple of days and hearing about situations like Palestine has made me completely rethink everything like life itself, and now every time I hear about Palestine or Ukraine or whatever else going on in the world, I can't help but burst into tears.

Sorry for the rant or whatever this is, just asking what you guys think or how you live your life if thats alright. Take care of yourself!

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  • Here's my take - if there's any merit to the heaven and hell stuff, it's purely in the last minutes of you actually dying (assuming a not-sudden death). Something your brain might conjure up before you go, premised on your remaining memories and attitudes towards life. If you mostly feel guilt about what you've done in your life, it will probably be an experience akin to hell. Joy, and a bittersweet sadness about leaving this world? Probably closer to heaven. And perhaps many various experiences in between that don't neatly map to this. All mostly a play of the last final, firing synapses before the curtain falls.

    If we take this approach, what does it say about living? Well, I'd say that it's important to live as fully and well as you can. Do good things. Make good connections with other humans and love people worth loving. Help people out. Have a laugh, read a good book once and a while. Live a life that, when it's all said and done, has honestly good material to draw from in those final moments before oblivion.

  • The afterlife lasting an eternity may not be all that it's cracked up to be. I enjoy this quote because it provides a different perspective of looking at our daily lives.

    "Let's suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream that you wanted to dream. And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time. Or any length of time you wanted to have. And you would, naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes. You would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say "Well, that was pretty great." But now let's have a surprise. Let's have a dream which isn't under control. Where something is gonna happen to me that I don't know what it's going to be. And you would dig that and come out of that and say "Wow, that was a close shave, wasn't it?" And then you would get more and more adventurous, and you would make further and further out gambles as to what you would dream. And finally, you would dream ... where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today."

    • Alan Watts
  • I've been raised roman catholic, but am agnostic.

    No afterlife just means that your current existence has even more meaning, because it's all you will ever experience. I want to be a nice and caring person, not for the promise of some afterlife where i get rewarded (which might happen or not), but for the sake of everyone around me, who also just have this one life - enhancing their lives has more meaning as well. If everyone would live in this spirit, our existence would be a much nicer experience.

    Even if you disappear into nothingness, what you did and what you said will echo through the times; every kind action will live on through the people that experienced it, and will encourage them to do the same, having a multiplying effect.

  • Life is self-emerging. There is no higher or predefined purpose. You can live without one, or define your own, which may or may not change over time.

    Regarding death as the ultimate conclusion; you can make of it what you want. You can consider what you leave behind. You can see life itself as worthwhile, without a need for an end-goal that follows after.

  • With this ideology, when I stop breathing, I will quite literally become nothing. There will be nothing. I am dead.

    I know. I'm sorry. If it helps, I'll be the same way too. We're all in this boat together. It's fucking terrifying. It's really pitch black after. Same way as it was before you were born. But we don't remember that, so it doesn't help.

    It's made me lose sleep a lot too and I often wondered what I'm meant to achieve in lieu of devotion to God to make it all mean something or make it all worthwhile.

    Each their own master, no universal judgement, and we all "go" to the same "place".

    Beyond that, there's no ties that bind us in common goals or purpose, some guy on the street - he could do literally anything and you'll both be dead same way one day. CCTV isn't religion, and police isn't god, he has nothing to fear and I've everything to lose. It's scary.

    Kinda wish I could be Christian honestly but unfortunately as far as I can tell, I am very literally incapable of faith.

    I've not solved my anxiety about death, I don't think I can, but I've made a lot of progress.

    Even without God, there are things I believe in, that matter to me. Why? I don't really know. I suppose I'm just genetically destined, wired to be that way by chance, but it feels 'right' to believe in these things.

    I believe in the maximisation of happiness as a good thing, I want people to be happier and suffer less, and I want to do well unto others and myself in those terms.

    From pushing egalitarian politics where I can to looking after myself and my loved ones and being kind and showing solidarity to others, and obviously not harming them. That's not meaning maybe, but it's purpose. Still basically Christian ethics, too.

    Perhaps I won't be rewarded, but such is the reality of the mortal coil, I have to believe that at least I've lived such that the first sunrise I'll never see won't be any dimmer by my hand than the ones that greeted me on this earth. Maybe even brighter.

    If that makes their day better, even as just one brick on the road towards oblivion, that's gotta count for something, right?

    Maybe that's a reward in and of itself. Even if I won't remember anything, others will remember something.

    Maybe that's enough.

  • Just because gods and heaven and hell aren't real, it doesn't mean that nothing is real. Kindness is real. Compassion is real. Understanding is real. That tingly feeling you get when you do something good for someone else is real. It may have been the product of countless years of evolution rather than divine whim, but it's still real.

    If you're lucky, you'll have another 60 or 70 years of awareness ahead of you. Find meaning by seeking out that tingly feeling as much as you can :)

  • It's not black and empty. There's no you to feel those things.

    The mind is what the brain does. It's a process, not a thing. It doesn't 'go' anywhere, and it doesn't sit there chewing on a lack of input either.

    The brain stops doing, the mind stops being.

    As for the point of it all: smoke 'em while you got 'em. Live your life, and try to make the world a bit better for others.

    After all, there's nobody running the universe. Nobody to take care lest a sparrow fall. No justice, no redemption, nobody balancing the books. The only thing in the entire universe that gives a damn if we live or die is each other.

    You want a purpose, there's your purpose. To do what only people can do: care about people and try to make their time on this rock better than it otherwise might be.

    • care about people and try to make their time on this rock better than it otherwise might be.

      so many people have said exactly this in the comments, so thank you for being another one of them! I actually sat down and thought a lot about how I've treated other people and have been working on completely changing that. I've recently messaged someone who I blocked many years ago and said I was sorry for being an idiot and being rude where I really shouldn't have been, cause people like you have made me realize how stupid I really have been back then and how much more important other peoples feelings are. he actually forgave me and seemed happy about it, and gave me some good advice. that was awesome! I've been trying a lot harder today to make strangers days better and a little happier when we meet and move on from each other (which can be pretty challenging to do with some people on the internet, but possible!) and it's definitely made my anxiety a lot less, not completely gone away though and I hope to get back to a somewhat normal state soon where I can sleep better at night. I hope its not selfish for trying to become this person only after having someone close to me die and having these thoughts roam around my head, I just never have put a lot of thought into other peoples feelings or the situations they're in. I have made a promise to myself though to keep trying for others even if and when I start to feel better again myself.

      wow sorry for the rant, thanks again and I really appreciate your comment!

  • You didn't exist before you were conceived, and you're not anxious about it. You will just return to that state.
    For me it's really the opposite, why would anyone want to live if there would be such a better place like heaven where everything is awesome for ever?

    If there is nothing after life, only then it's worth living, because this is it, everything you can experience, god and bad you can only experience here and now, so you better make it count. Give your own life meaning, don't wait until someone else does.

    In the end the universe will die a heat death and in the long run everything in meaningless. But in the short run, everything is full of meaning, it's exciting, dangerous, beautiful, horrible and so on.

    Carl Sagan famously said, "We are a way for the universe to know itself."

    This reflects his view that human beings, as conscious and curious creatures, are a product of the universe's evolution and serve as a means for the cosmos to become self-aware. Through our capacity for science, art, and philosophy, we explore and understand the universe, essentially allowing it to observe and contemplate its own existence.

  • I used to think there wasn't a point to life because we all just die. But then people told me that I couldn't be successful and that made me mad so now I'm fueled by spite. I've achieved almost everything I have set out to do so far in life, so now I'm just here to have a good time.

  • First off, it's ok to be in this mental state - it's nothing to be ashamed of or angry at, as uncomfortable as it is. Because ultimately, thinking about each and everyone's "purpose" is is not a bad thing per se. It's what helped me branch out and starting an apprenticeship in something I wasn't sure I'd be fit for after stumbling around in university and not knowing what to do with my life.

    That said, I think life is about creating heaven on earth as far and much as possible. All your good deeds don't go unnoticed and don't go away if you die. It's about making something meaningful and special, be it to you or to others.

    Who cares if there even is an afterlife. You can just exist in the here and now and make the best of it. Granted, a lot of things are going south right now, but it's the thought that counts.

    Re-unite with family with whom you've not been in touch for a while, meet new friends, experience new things, be a good friend. All of these things generate value either for you or for others and these are the things that count in the long term.

    But also don't feel bad if you don't live up to your expectations every single day. It's ok to take time off, to focus on yourself and not sacrifice your well-being for others all the time.

    Not sure if any of this helps, but it's what's helping/helped me and these were my thoughts in regards to this subject. Lots of love - get better soon 💜

  • Most religions believe in some kind of afterlife. We know that's unlikely to be true which makes this one all the more valuable.

  • As a living thinking being it's your own responsibility to think about what's important to you and what you want from life. Being in your circumstance is outside your control. You could have been born into a kind/cruel family or a fortune/unfortunate one and have an easy/comfortable life but I see it all as luck. If you were born in a different body with certain brain chemistry you'll think about life in a more carefree or dutiful way. Imagine that for any person you can possibly conceive and potentially any creature or even bacteria that don't or can't think in such a considered way.

    With all that in mind you're probably pretty lucky in the circumstances you're born in and you have been raised to be empathetic or you were naturally inclined to be but if that's how you are you can choose to continue those values that try to help others to live in a positive way while you still can. Maybe there's a reward or not. For the conceivable time you're able to be empathetic and cognizant of your place and privilege maybe you'll find happiness in knowing helping others can bring comfort and joy to others and in turn yourself. There's no knowing what is after but choosing to spread decency and altruism within your means can give you comfort that when the time comes (however soon or sudden) you can end knowing you were gifted and gifted a blessing to the other lives you contacted who may also continue in your footsteps.

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