I'm a bit lost here, to be fair. I went full no contact with my family back when I was 16. Took a hike, even across countries. So, apparently what happened, was my ex brother in law not keeping his mouth shut and sharing my number with my family. I still can't make heads or tails of it. But now my dad wants to be real chummy and friendy with me? Fuck that, honestly. I'm not super mad at him, more at the rest of my family, but it seriously hurts right now. What am I supposed to do?
I'm at a loss here. Haven't really talked to the person for over 21 years.
I've been no contact for almost the same amount of time, so I'll tell you how I'd feel in the same boat.
My dad had no backbone to protect me while I was in his house, and he didn't bother trying to stay in my life after I left. He may not have done the abuse, but he definitely allowed it to happen due to inaction. I am always going to miss the parents I thought I had, but it won't add anything positive to my life to have contact again.