Meaning/implication of “you don’t have to do this” in this context?
I’m a bit confused, mainly because I’ve never been told this before. I once was trying to talk to someone I met, and asked them questions about themselves to get to know them.
After a while, they just said, “You don’t have to do this, you know. I’m fine with being silent.”
How would you respond to this? I don’t really know the implications or anything.
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It really depends on tone and how long the interaction would last. I'd consider saying that rude most of the time as the person making small talk is just doing something nice.
I'm not exactly sure how to respond to that.
I'd say the correct way to respond is by not saying anything. They've clearly indicated that they aren't interested in continuing the conversation.
I’d consider saying that rude most of the time as the person making small talk is just doing something nice.
the question here is how many hints/suggestions/requests has OP already blown past? if all they talk about is the weather, chances are you should just let the conversation drop.
it could be cultural, but yeah, I feel like the person was quite exasperated with OP and was all-but-point-blank telling them to stop talking.
I just remained in silence, then asked them some questions like “So… how’s life?”
Them: “It’s ok, I have a part-time job and usually just stay at home.”
(Silence)
“What kind of things do you do at home?”
“watch tv. I like movies and whatever Adult Swim show comes on.”
Then after a while of silence, they told me I didn’t have to do this.
Yeah; they got the read that you were feeling awkward with silence, but they didn’t want to be asked questions about their life.
Thanks!
