Getting back into dating and I fell for a married woman wtf

Couple months ago I met a woman who works at a dispensary I visit about once a week. We hit it off really well. Despite trying to just keep it casual sex, and that only, I ended up developing some feelings for her. She confessed the same to me. I even introduced her to my teenaged daughter, for fucks sake.

I ran into her this evening at a gas station, with another guy, who turns out to be her husband. They’ve been married five years, and have two children together, ages 4 and 2. Finding out they have kids just made me feel disgusting.

So, I told him. He didnt believe me until I described a tattoo in a somewhat intimate place on her body. I had no fucking clue she was married. I think I ruined someone’s marriage. Or at least took part in ruining one.

I feel guilty. I am sorry for what I participated in. Am I a bad person?

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Do feel bad, you're a good person for telling him

Also maybe this is cause I'm a woman but also happy you're safe. I'd be so afraid of the guy getting mad at me and getting physical
- I'd be so afraid of the guy getting mad at me and getting physical
  
  thankfully that burden will now be borne entirely by his wife.
  
  ...kinda shocked a woman doesn't see how bad this is
  
  I had assumed that if he didn't get mad enough to beat her right there and then after hearing the news he wouldn't get any more mad and beat her later
  
  Now that I actually think about it yea, this is a completely wrong assumption
  
  I don't know how cheaters and physical abusers think lol
  
  Many totally messed up/dysfunctional people know how to keep a good face on for the public, and/or even have a particular preoccupation with doing so. My family, growing up as a kid, definitely was one such example- and eventually facades tend to break, but it can take years. Hopefully this isn't one such case, but you never know.
  
  This, 100%. u/Feinsteins_Ghost, if you have any doubts, you should probably at least check in on her to see if she's fine.

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