so when a trans girl doesn't pass as a girl they tell her they'll never be a girl but when a trans guy is absolutely not passing as a girl in any possible way they are a girl?? make it make sense.
to be fair, when a transgirl passes, transphobes will say they'll never be a woman and look like a man. Hell, transphobes will do that to cispeople in general because they hate anyone who doesn't fit exactly into their mold. There's even whole transvestigation groups that claim certain celebrities are trans because of slight features of how they look.
Literally saw a transvestigation post claiming Andre the Giant was trans.
Too many of them weren't joking. That was a rather popular conspiracy theory during the Obama years; that Michelle is trans (or, to hear them tell it, "really a man") and their daughters are actors.
One time my friend told me they could always tell trans women and cis women apart, so I showed him a picture of Molly Ringwald in Breakfast Club and he guessed "trans" lmao.
He claimed it didn't prove anything because I tricked him.
Because "woman" is treated as a political stance rather than a deeply complex id between society, biology, and the self.
When they ask you to define "woman", don't give them a biological answer. Give them a political answer; a woman is someone who identifies as a woman and faces similar forms of oppression.