You ever had a crush on someone back in the day, see them now and go "what was I thinking"?
This happens to me when I rarely open up Facebook. I'd see someone I was obsessing over in the 10s, and now I just wonder what I was ever feeling with them. It's not like something happened and they're massively different, they're more or less the same. Really the world changed a lot and I'm not the I used to be.
I'm not dating anyone new now. But if I had to judge someone as hot, they would have many of the following characteristics:
left of some soft (Marxist, Anarchist, hell I'll date a decent socdem)
mask wearing
vegan
high empathy, worry about the suffering of others
reader
actively organising something in their community
To be honest, I had a pretty basic taste in dates back in the day. If anything, this should be a self-crit.
not utterly bloodthirsty and completely opposed to veganism on principle
which limits my options in my area to a total of... 0 people. As far as I can tell. I have literally never met someone who meets these three criteria. death to america.
Being a leftist in public is asking for trouble, not to mention leftists are more often visibly queer, or disabled, an ethnic minority, etc. I've had dating profiles with leftist stuff (free Palestine, acab, eat the rich, etc) and more than a few times people would match with me just to call me a piece of shit.
I've had people follow me around shouting at me too. I've had my life threatened in broad daylight. This is why I own a gun.
I'll make a longer answer as a comment in your thread, but it's just like if you have sincere leftist beliefs, you're already part of a marginalized group.
There are already dangerous people out there, you know?