I'm not an egg anymore, but I found this meme I made several years ago when looking through an old hard drive and wanted to put it on Lemmy.
Image description: Top text says "Me: 100% totally cis male." Bottom text says "Also me: A girl with girl stuff and girl hair and girl clothes." The bottom part is actually an image of a Minecraft skin that is posted on Planet Minecraft.
I think what they mean is that trying to argue that a person playing a girl character makes them a girl, regardless of their identity is the part they don't agree with. I agree with them on that (if that is the case) I do not believe that actions by a person can make one semantically trans, I believe (as do most decent people) that the way a person identifies is what determines gender identity, and trying to go against that is hurtful and invalidating.
I acknowledge that this meme is a person calling themselves out, but it sets a chilling precedent for invalidating Gender Non-conforming people, who almost certainly will do things like this that step way outside of gender stereotypes, yet they still fully identify as male. It invalidates them because it's in a sense saying that their actions make the way they identify invalid, that's what saying someone is trans in-denial does, it invalidates their current identity based on their actions.
It's just a meme I made like 3 or 4 years ago because I saw a skin on pmc with a funny name. I really didn't put that much effort into it. This has a CW for assuming the viewer is transfem because I am transfem and it's from my perspective when I was an egg. Also I don't think this meme at all invalidates gender non-conforming people who identify as male. Just because it was intended for a different audience, it doesn't mean they don't exist or are invalid. Would making a meme like this targeting gender non-conforming people who identify as male invalidate trans women?
I think what they mean is that trying to argue that a person playing a girl character makes them a girl, regardless of their identity is the part they don't agree with.
I agree with your statement, playing as a girl character is not what makes you irl a girl. However, this meme isn't about the character you play as. It's about the amusing title that the Minecraft skin has, and it's not a skin I made, so I didn't choose the title.
It invalidates them because it's in a sense saying that their actions make the way they identify invalid, that's what saying someone is trans in-denial does, it invalidates their current identity based on their actions
You do realize that is egg_irl, right? This whole community is about being trans in-denial.
and also kinda reinforces gender stereotypes
I feel like this meme does the exact opposite. Top text essentially says "On the surface I'm a guy" and bottom text essentially says "but actually I'm a girl". At least to me that doesn't seem cisnormative.