Exactly, I've worked so hard and come so far to reach peace. It feels impossible to retrace all those steps with someone who's barely willing. But at least I can be her stability.
Yup, we're the same way. My SO keeps worrying, "what if X happens? What if Y happens?" and they don't seem to like my answer of, "we'll cross that bridge when we get to it." We're quite stable financially, so we're prepared to handle pretty much any surprise, yet she still worries about random things.
I think some people are just predisposed to anxiety. I'm glad I don't have to deal with that.
I've found, "I don't know, let's look into it" to be pretty effective at switching from worrying to problem solving, and as we go, my SO will usually get over the worrying and apologize for being dramatic. It doesn't always work, but maybe it's worth a shot.
Yeah you are right, that works for me too. I guess what she really wants is someone to just listen and be supportive, and not necessarily solve the problem (since it can't be solved also).