Five years ago today my AFAB child went hard core in dressing as me for Halloween. This was their makeup test day. I was shocked when a few months later they came out to us. I am not a smart man.
But now when people find out I have three kids and ask their genders I get to say one of each and then delight in their facial expressions.
Yes, this is what makes you sound like a wonderful father. That you didn't see it as even optional. None of us are experts on things we haven't experienced before 😊
And to be fair the first night they asked to be called a new name I told my wife in bed no way in hell. The next morning I realized I was an idiot and told my wife we'll support our kid no matter what and I'll start using the name right away. So I did have my moment of not sure brightness.
You are clearly underestimating your smarts - too many people stick with their first reaction and don't reexamine their feelings and position on issues. Your family is lucky to have you.