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92 here. My boys 10 and 8 have their own machines, they are told to Google it first before I come help.
"I'm not raising end users...get your shit together kid."
Love,
SysEngineer Dad.
- fellow tech dad here. how did you strike the balance between "look up shit online" and "hiding the terrors and lies of the internet from my kids"?
  Mine's still little, but knowing sooner is better.
  
  I have the Microsoft safety shit on, and I made every site they can go to a web app. My router blocks nsfw/nonkid traffic. My phone gets notifications when they do anything at all.
  And I have extensions blocking all nsfw sites just in case. And I've nuked the entry for any web browser on their start menu and task bars. Can't even scroll to find it. If you open it, it requires my admin PW, which is 14char #$@-123-ABC so good luck turds.
  Steam is locked down in kid mode - also they just play Roblox or cool math games anyways lol. Steam has browser disabled.
  Only things they have access to is Bing.com with their signed in kid account. And coolmathgames.com.
  It took about a week on and off to setup and I just did the two laptops in tandem. Windows 11.
  The family thing can be a pain, Microsoft has a lot of half baked ideas https://www.tomsguide.com/computing/how-to-set-up-parental-controls-on-a-windows-11-pc
  
  The family thing can be a pain, Microsoft has a lot of half baked ideas
  I concur, Microsoft forced me to create a family to setup my daughter's Minecraft account and even then I had to configure it incorrectly to add the game because it's age rating was too high for a 5 year old and Microsoft's own parental approval feature doesn't override that. (I at least could change it back to being a 5 year old's account afterwards) I need to figure out what setting I have to enable to let her do multiplayer at some point but so far she doesn't have anyone to play with yet
  
  My parents and school administrators' attempts at blocking unsanctioned activities is what taught me computer literacy
  There was nothing quite as satisfying as getting caught opening addictinggames on a web browser through a proxy when the teacher was convinced they had blocked it completely.
  
  My son's group in middle school hosted their own proxy overseas. They then pirated a whole bunch of educational videos that the teachers liked to use and made nice clean interface. The games pages had no direct links on the educational videos screens. They had to type in the the page directly in the URL.
  So the teachers all loved the site and gave the official "approved for all students" bypass on the districts Chromebooks. The kids had uninterrupted access to all their games.
  The kids were smart enough to keep the location of the games to students with a B or higher GPA. Most of the teachers turned a blind eye to them playing games when they did get caught. The games pages also had a home button that sent the students screens to a random educational video. I was truly impressed with their clever approach.
  The IT department either never caught on or enjoyed the games themselves because its still up and they are all in highschool now.
  
  I remember when proxies were easy to find and you could get to the most ridiculous stuff. We had college intern system admins for IT at our HS so it was easier to get by alot of things most of the time.
  
  A friend and I became unofficial TAs for a high school computers class when we defeated the remote-viewing software and any web blockers, we knew more than the poor teacher and it was easier to let us do what we wanted if we promised to help other kids do the actual lessons.
  That network had terrible security. So many important files stored as unprotected text in the intranet.
  
  Yeah, I found Microsoft family to be a pretty half-assed experience. The thing that seems to work best is the screen time management. I had planned to try and set up YouTube access via allow listing channels in a home Linux server, but it turns out that YouTube doesn't identify their videos by channel in the URL and I'd have to allowlist every single video for a given channel.
  
  I'm planning on building a server that rips channels videos and they can have the app for that.
  We are a no YouTube without our explicit permission on the video kinda household. Too much actual brainrot. And as much as I don't like Television, at least my kids are mentally protected from bullshit with the Children's Television Protection Act.
  
  I'm guessing my kids are younger than yours, but I've taken the approach of simply keeping a loose eye and ear on what they're watching to make sure they're not on too bad of content and of course limiting how much time they can spend on brainrot content. They spend most of their TV time watching PBS kids or some ripped DVDs on my Jellyfin
  
  You could theoretically host a Piped API instance, and use it to get channel info. I guess you are already using your own SSL certificates, judging by what you are trying to accomplish.
  This is the Piped org btw: https://github.com/TeamPiped
  It is a YouTube frontend/proxy.
  Edit: I made a post on Piped's community, so we can discuss it there: https://discuss.online/post/16448014
  
  I'm not a sysadmin, I'm a backend dev with enough network knowledge to be dangerous. I've set up exactly one super basic website, so I know some of this stuff, I just have to (and can and will) stumblefuck my way through it. This seems like a really great idea, I had no idea Piped could potentially handle that. I'm going to keep an eye on this, thanks!
  
  That's awesome. I would've hated dealing with this as a kid. Will definitely steal this when I have kids.
  
  I would've hated dealing with this as a kid.
  same, except i would love to bypass this as an adult
  
  Yea, my job at work now is to do this but all day lol. I build my network/firewall/and shit and then go around trying to break as much shit as I can so I can fix it.
- You’re 92 and your kids are 10 and 8? Damn, and I thought I started late.
  
  Old dusty balls still knockin around by my knees but you better be god damn sure I'm fuckin.
- My kid spends a lot of time helping their friends do basic computer stuff and we have the same rants about users.
  I’m so proud.
  
  Raising them right. I have a 28 year old college grad sys admin that I work with....I had to show him where windows updates were.
  He uses windows search to open settings....bachelors degree in IT.
- I wouldn't be in the mood to start raising a child st 84
  
  I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought of a 92 YO on Lemmy.
  
  Most parents done feel like raising theirs either. They just stuff them on a tablet and do their thing.
- "I'm not raising end users...get your shit together kid."
  Quite an important thing. That's also important if you help your parents/grandparents with something. Guide the through it so you hopefully dont have to help them next time.
  
  Not really. It takes a lot of experience to sort the legit from the not legit.
  “Having problem X? Download the system32.dll fix here!”
  
  That's true. What I meant was like basic stuff like navigating through the settings of your phone or so.
  
  Even then. My mother followed a YouTube video on this including the part where the helpful Indian guy had her download an app and set up a very sketchy VPN.
  Yea…
  
  What?
  
  I'm starting to get to a point in my career where I have to turn down helping my family.
  I strongly encourage the elderly to "just get an iPad" if they have an iPhone and just drop x86 devices all together. It's way less headache.
  Luckily my mom's still young and proficient enough with computers and phones.
- you should encourage them to use something that's not google. Startpage, SearxNG, DuckDuckGo are good alternatives.
  
  Ive heard about qwant and ecosia too
  
  They are good options too.
  
  I agree but bing.com is really what they are using because it has the parental controls that coincide with their signed in account.
  When they get older and are more "free" on the Internet I'll migrate them to Linux, I'll let them choose the DE and then they can do what ever they want.
- I spent so much time troubleshooting together with my dad. I found it way more educational than just googling it and owe my current level of knowledge to it. When I was living with my parents part of me was sad when I got to the point where I was able to solve any issues I had faster alone than with my dad's help. No judgement just thought you might want to know. I totally get not wanting to cross over your work life and your family life though.
  
  I learned electronics through my Dad that way too. And my kids learn through me with this stuff. But if they ask me over and over again to do something, it's their burden to go research what they need to learn to stop asking me. And it's usually done with my guidance. I'm not actually flippant with them with their questions lol
- You turn your 8 year old loose on google, explicitly and intentionally unsupervised, and hold it up as an example of good parenting.
  
  You assumed absolutely wayyy to much based on a single sentence and virtue signal your superiority based on your own fantasy of what's going on with inconclusive data. Move along.

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