Let's be clear: bidet comes AFTER toilet paper. Not "instead of". That's the modern intended use. So get your stuff together and buy one now! How can you love without?
Definitely not after. Bidet first to power wash the area, then paper to dry and check that there's no residual. That way there is less paper used and less irritation in general.
wait...shouldn't the toilet paper come AFTER the bidet so that the dry toilet paper can dry you off?
edit: anyway, I can only speak for myself (obviously) But as an autistic person with sensory issues (that has tried a bidet exactly once) I was not a fan of the feeling of water spraying on me (to be fair, I also hate showers and prefer baths for this reason as well)
Well you can bidet before tp indeed...
But nah, first clean with a bit of tp, then wash. Then dry (or don't, I love that little feeling fresh down under, provided you don't powerwash typhoon style ofc)