What is your most controversial opinion/belief?
What is your most controversial opinion/belief?
Religion doesn’t count. We’re on Lemmy, so neither does communism.
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This might just be me being ace, I don't want to be telling other people how to live their lives. That said I find it extremely difficult to want spend time around people in polycules, I don't see the appeal and I really don't get the dynamic.
All polyamorous people being allosexual, then?
I mean I get the generalization that allo polys would be more overtly sexual than allo monos. I could see the weirdness while respecting “ethical sluts.”
I gotta keep it real, I disagree with that generalisation hardcore. (although idk if sharedburdens was making it herself) I find that monogamous allos are just as overtly sexual and weird in my experience. It sounds counter intuitive but whether or not they have multiple partners, you cannot give allosexual people an inch on stuff like that. Volcel pledge for a reason etc
Fair enough, I don’t think my argument’s solid, I just like to attempt to defend things that get pushback. You’re probably right in general, and maybe they are right in their personal experience which is not representative.
I wasn't trying to generalize that being poly was exclusive with being ace either. I just have a hard enough time with relationship dynamics and haven't had great experiences personally- though also admittedly the only people I've know in polycules were allo so that's just a bias on my end I guess. Didn't mean to offend.
Should’ve pinged ash. I understood that subtext. I am unoffended, but defending you.
I think I was blocked, figured I'd at least put it out there. @ashinadash@hexbear.net
By me?
I must be forgetting something but no? My block list is like three users long, almost all federated dweebs. I wouldn't be able to see your post...I mean, hard times with relationship dynamics and bad personal experiences are both fair enough, it just tends to send my eyebrows up, I've seen too many "poly people are only in it for the sex!" things regress to borderline reactionary takes. Even aside that it's not my favourite bias, but oh well I suppose, y'know.