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Do u sit in the cuck chair they have in every hotel room
Why would I share a hotel room with them when we don’t even share a house together?
So you live separately? Does he travel between?
Does he support you financially? Is it more of a practical arrangement or an affectionate one?
We all live on the same property, which includes 3 houses and accommodation for the staff - a compound. Each wife and her kids have their own house; husband has his own house too which is used for communal family events, celebrations, him hosting his guests (would be incovenient for us, the wives, in a common home as we have to cover up in the presence of non-related men), etc. Either he comes to us or we go to him. Yes, he does. In Islam you’re not allowed to have multiple wives unless you can afford to (a house for each, cars, staff, allowance, gifts, etc.) and they have to be treated equally. In Islam the husband is the provider and protecter of his wives. It’s both.
Frankly, being uber-rich is way more significant to your lifestyle than being polyamourous.
How is your relationship with the other wife? Is she older than you? Is there a sense that you replaced her, and/or any jealousy between you?
We’re amicable. Not best friends ‘cause we have different personalities, but we never fought and get along well when we’re together. She’s born in 1982, I’m born in 1996. No. Their marriage was arranged ‘cause husband was getting “old” (he was 33 when they got married, she was 28). They grew close romantically only after they got married. Our marriage was a love marriage, not arranged. It’s kind of common for the first marriage to be of convenience and the second one for love. Starting with the 3rd wife the man is just whoring at that point.
So you're less than excited for the potential arrival of a third wife?
Also, thanks for answering!
I meant it more as in that's the common social attitude towards a man with more than 2 wives. I personally wouldn't mind.
Got it! That's a fun little insight.
How do you usually spend your days? Do you get out, or stay at home a lot? How did you end up on Lemmy?
I like going out shopping, hanging out with friends, dining out, etc. I like staying home and playing with my kid, I like watching movies, TV shows, listening to music, playing video games, board games, puzzles, LEGO, baking, I like having my friends over, reading, dollying myself up, going to the salon, working out, hanging out by the pool, on the beach, etc. I had a Reddit account but I forgot my password so I made another one but Reddit is completely inaccessible to new accounts (can't post, comment anywhere) so I looked for alternatives.
So he's what, 47? And you're 28? How does the age gap affect your relationship?
Yes. I can only speak for my perspective: it makes me feel safe and gives me a sense of security. You need a mature person to lead a family. And I also want a mature person to lead my relationship. That’s what attracted me to him in the first place.
That's interesting, thanks for sharing!