Bro, that is lemmy. If you haven't noticed, that's how tankies operate here. They don't just post straight propaganda, they rile you up and make you angry and make you question the way you talk to people, when in fact you did nothing wrong.
They gaslight pretty much everyone that posts there. I only had limited, occasional interactions with that instance and almost every time it was negative. I started to wonder what I was doing that was making me so misunderstood, which was getting me into all kinds of discussions...
Once I figured it out and blocked the entire instance from my profile, I've had a lot of interactions on Lemmy and I'm no longer walking on eggshells every time I post a comment.
I'm just grateful that the asshats all converged into a few instances so I can just block the entire instance and have a great time on Lemmy.